I have noticed that a lot of people with mental illness are sensitive, compassionate people. Many of us were mentally abused as children by our parents or as adults in domestic abuse situations.
Many of us experienced both dysfunctional families as children as well as domestic abuse as adults. Due to having been forced to tolerate abuse as a child, we ended up in similar relationships as adults. We have no frame of reference to make proper choices. It must be learned the hard way.
The chances are that we were born with sensitive personalities. We are sensitive to how others feel more than other people are. We get our feelings hurt easily and we notice when others are displeased with us quickly. In addition, we have had our self esteem damaged from mental abuse.
It is difficult for us to attain and maintain healthy relationships. We end up with people around us that are hurtful. Many of us are afraid of abandonment and do whatever it takes to please the other person. Others of us are afraid of commitment and will avoid relationships for fear of getting into another painful situation.
We are people that have a lot to offer to others. We are kind and have an understanding of other people’s problems and feelings. It is sad that we end up with people that bring us down and lower our self esteem.
The fact that we repeat patterns of unbalanced and unhealthy relationships, holds us back from being able to do things that other people can do.
There are people who would be good for us to have around us. There are friends and romantic partners who would encourage and respect us. Yet we gravitate toward the familiar patterns with familiar dysfunctional roles.
Some of this has to do with the chemistry in the brain and other neurological dysfunction. Our brains are wired to repeat the behaviors and patterns that we are used to.
I am trying to work on these areas in my own life. I will post blogs with any information I find, and any discoveries I make as I am on this path.
The more I have been able to connect with other people who are in similar behavioral patterns to mine, the more I think that all of us deserve more from life than we have. We deserve to be healed and we deserve to have support and encouragement.