“Never let someone else decide how good you are. And never make an exception to that rule. Your words, and your unique way of expressing them, are a gift given to you. If someone else doesn’t appreciate them, then good for them. It’s not their gift, so it has nothing to do with them. Its your responsibility to respect your gifts and to protect them from negativity ”
These are words of wisdom that I paraphrased from a friend of mine. This is what he tells me when I feel my life energy being sucked out of me by controlling people who desire to suck self esteem out and knock my creative thinking. These people are soul-sucking predators, who get their self esteem boosted by crushing other people down.
No matter how good you are at what you do, or how right you might be about something, there will always be that person that wants to make you feel inadequate. They want to make you give up on your individuality and silence your voice.
No one has the right to silence another person’s voice, who is a kind person and is trying to create the best reality they know how. When you are trying to be strong and make your voice heard, someone will show up and try to undermine you.
There is always a critic in the hall. If you sing a song, someone will tell you that your singing is bad. If you write a book to help others, someone will tell you that the book is without merit. When you try to support and guide your children the best way you know, someone will call you a bad mother.
There are controlling people out there that want everything done their way. They will try to conform you into their drone. If you keep on with your opinions and your methods, they will try to force you to change. If you do not change then they will attempt to retaliate against you.
More often than not, these people are in your own family. There may be a certain family member that you have who is always critical of you. They want things done their way and there is no room for your opinion or individuality.
Sometimes you will run into them at work also. Women can be very undermining of other women. If you begin to stand out due to your new ideas, someone will attempt to take you down.
This is a sad thing that sometimes the very people who are supposed to be supporting you will do things to undermine you. This is not the time to give up on yourself or think that your voice does not count. They may find a way to win temporarily. I know how it can be when someone used threats and coercion to control another person.
Do not stop believing in yourself. If you still have to interact with that family member for now, then you can survive it until you can find another way. It is best to limit interaction with soul sucking people, as much as humanly possible.
Your voice matters. You are as entitled to your feelings and thoughts about how to do things as they are. You are yourself. Your ideas may be different from theirs, but id does not mean that they are wrong.
Do not let people crush you down and damage your self esteem. It is very hard to recover from that, once it happens. Once they have crushed your self esteem and made you feel that you will never be heard, then you will become depressed. Depression is an ugly thing and it is hard to recover from.
If you are already depressed because someone has crushed down your feeling of self worth, then please know that your voice matters. There cannot be just one voice.
Some people think that their voice and opinions are the only ones that matter. They think the world would be a better place if their methods were the only ones and everyone did things their way. The world was not made that way.
The world was not ever meant to have one opinion or one method of doing things. God (or your choice of higher power) did not make just one voice. The people that think that their thoughts and ideas are the only valid ones, are not being realistic.
What if their was one voice and it was not theirs? How would they feel about that?
How is it that their voice was anointed to be the one and only truth?
There are more ways to do something that just one. People see things differently and are able to tackle a situation from a variety of different angle and viewpoints. Your feelings about things are just as valid as theirs. Do not let people take away authority from you, when it comes to decisions in your own life.
People do not have a right to force their ways on you, when it comes to your life and your parenting. You have just as much of a right to try things and fail, if need be. When we fail, then we are able to learn and grow.
Your voice matters! Do not let anyone take your voice away from you !