Personalizing Your Space to Support Your Mental Health

It can be easy yo become lost within the roles other people force upon us. Family members, church groups, social groups, and society all have their own ideas of who we “should be.”

It is understandable to try to fit in and to want to keep the peace with people. Having to fight for our own boundaries, roles and identity can be draining.

If you grew up in a situation where emotional boundaries were not respected, then it may be even harder for you. Children growing up with people who prioritize their own agenda, to the point of discouraging the child to express themselves, never get a chance to develop a strong sense of self.

As an adult you may have to learn the basic things that you should have been taught as a child and teenager. Your personal identity, personality, likes, dislikes, and roles you feel comfortable  in, are uniquely your own.

You have a right to feel how you feel about things. 

People who truly care about us, would not want us to sacrifice our happiness for them. The other people are just taking advantage of us, so their ideas about who we “should be” do not count.

We are the ones who have to live our lives and we have the right to be happy. We should be able to pursue the things that make us happy and to project the personality that is truly ourselves.

We should be able to be friends with who we want to be and to work where and how we want to. It would be nice to be able to live where we want to, but of course that can be tricky.

But at least we can create an atmosphere in our own spaces that represents who we are.

One step to becoming strong in our own identity is to create our own surroundings in the way that suits us. 

The way we have things in our spaces, especially our bedroom is important, even if we have a tiny space. Some people live in a nursing home, or in their parents home. You little but of space is all you have and it should have things in it that make you feel good.

Our space should represent ourselves and the things that we want out of life. You can make a dream board, or an accomplishments board. You can put up pictures of beautiful and inspiring things in the wall.

There should be things surrounding you that make the space feel like it is yours, even if you do not own the space.

The bedroom should have things that calm you and inspire you. If that is your only space (it is my only space) then it is very important that it is set up in a way that feels like home to you. If you like having pictures of loved ones, then that is good. If you like pictures of animals, or nature, then you can find them in magazines or online.

Some people write poetry and put their poetry or songs on the wall. You can put up your own artwork or other artwork that you like. Make sure each thing that you have on the wall and on the tables to decorate, is something that speaks to you in a good way.

Get rid of stuff that has bad memories attached to it.  You may have things around you all the time, that make you feel bad or lower your self esteem and you do not even realize it.

Go through stuff and get rid of things. You will find things that you really like and have not had any room to put out. You will make room for things that represent your true self.

It is easy to get lazy about your space, but your personal space is important to your mental health.

The mood of your space is important. Color can create mood.  Think about the colors around you and see how experimenting with different colors of items can make a difference.  Colors can be on the walls, in the blankets, curtains, rug, stuffed animals, cloths covering dressers and shelves and other things.

Your bedroom should make you feel relaxed, calm and safe. If you have other rooms, then decide what mood you want to create in each room. Find ways to make the room feel that way to you.

Much love,

Annie… she cleans her messy room……

5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ngobesing Romanus
    Apr 11, 2015 @ 06:20:31

    A great post on how to manage one’s space in life. I feel edified by this lovely post.



  2. yeseventhistoowillpass
    Apr 11, 2015 @ 14:13:05

    My car is a bedroom. I live my life in my car… Be gentle on yourself…



  3. gentlekindness
    Mar 07, 2016 @ 20:53:16

    Reblogged this on Gentle Kindness .



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