I ended up in a conversation a couple of weeks ago about the possibility of the existence of one soul mate for each person. Personally this concept does not make sense in the way that people usually mean it.
But I do believe that I have been with soul mates of mine, twice in my life. They were people that saw me for who I truly was and understood my intent behind things. They got to know me very well and could usually predict how things would make me feel. They were there for me when and in the way I needed them to be. They were each of them, my best friend, at the time I was with them.
The concept of a soul mate is usually that there is one true perfect match for each person. No other person other than the soul mate could be the right one for you.
If there is one soul mate on the entire earth, then what are the chances you would ever run into them? What are the chances they even live in your country, never mind your city? If there is only one match per person, I would say we are all doomed to me lonely forever.
But what if there are many possible soul mates for each of us? I am not saying that there are 200 guys in your town that would be a great match for you. But there is probably one in France, one in Alaska, one in California and one in your state somewhere, maybe….or maybe not. Maybe they are farther away.
Before the internet, people married their high school sweethearts. Being that I work with elderly people, I have run into many old people that did , in fact , marry their high school sweetheart or at least someone from their city or town.
People did not have the ability to search high and low, all over the country for a mate. There was no Match,com or E-Harmony,com or Dharma Match,com They did not have social media and al this stuff.
If their soul mate was not right nearby, then they would likely never meet them. This whole way of meeting people that live in other states, across the country around the world,, is all new. There have been many more matches made between local people over all the years people have been dating, than there have been online matches.
So where does that leave us, with the question? If there is only one soul mate per person, how does it make any sense that they have been finding each other all these many years? Is this the only generation that has been able to find their soul mates, due to the social media?
Even the internet dating is a long shot! Do you know how many dating sites there are? Everyone does not even use them. How could you end up finding this one person? (on a side note…Dharma Match is a good one)
The high school sweetheart stories I have heard, often had happy endings. The old people I talk to tell me that they liked this person, they thought they were handsome or pretty and they decided to make it work. They decided to make it work by deciding to love each other and respect each other. They turned each other into their soul mate, with an intent to do so.
Let’s say you have been looking for a match in your town and suddenly you have to move to another state for a better job…Are you now doomed to not find your match? Was he in your home town and now you have left him?
No, come on. There is surely someone that you can have a soul mate match with, in the new city. It is more of matter of the intent of both people. If you find someone who you like to be with, they listen to you and understand you, they laugh and cry with you…Then I think it is possible that you can connect with them It matters what the intent is in their heart and in yours.
Relationships are built. They are built with friendship. They are built on trust and having each other’s back. They are built on reliability, compassion and kindness and understanding. There are likely to be multiple people around the world that you could build a relationship with and feel like soul mates with each other.
It is a matter of intent and creation. You create the relationship together over time.
have fun on your adventure. I do not believe “the ends justifies the means”. Quality of life and quality of character is all about the “means”. It is what you do along the path that truly matters.