Personal Mental Illness Blogs Right to Your Own Brain

The ability for people suffering from mental illness and psychological damage to be able to reveal their personal truth through blogging has been a great outlet for many people.

People who once had no one they felt they could speak honestly to, found this gift of the blogging world. They found that they were not alone in their suffering and even in their feelings of being alone in their suffering.

I believe that blogging about mental illness and trauma has been the one thing that has been a lifeline for many people.

When I hear about people getting comments about their posts being too dark and that they should only write about certain aspects of their particular mental illness, it upsets me.

Everyone is an individual. Each person experiences their mental suffering in a unique way. Two people with the same diagnosis are not necessarily going to experience it the same way or have the same perception of those experiences.

Just because one person does not experience ( or has not yet experienced) being is very dark places, does not mean that someone else hasn’t. We are not in the job of making mental illness look pretty.

There is enough stigma about mental illness from the world. It is a shame for people with mental illness to perpetuate stigma within the blogging community.

People should be able to have their tiny little space in the blogging world to be able to speak their personal truth and express their feelings, whatever they may be.

No one should be telling anyone how they “should” feel about their mental illness or tell them to make their writing more palatable for others to read.

Everyone is free to read or not read whatever blogs they want to. If someone’s blog is not for them, then they should move the hell on to another petson’s blog.

There is no reason to tell someone to water down their writing. There is no good reason to tell someone to make a particual mental illness come off to readers in a certain light.

We are all individuals. Let us celebrate our differences and our right to express those differences.

I have recently read a post by someone who is considering quitting blogging about her mental illness because some readers told her that she does not show bipolar disorder in the way they feel it should be.

What is the “should be” all about, when we are writing about our individual experiences with our individual brains?

If there is any “should be” then it is this….People should be able to talk and reach out to others for validation and understanding without feeling like they are not following some random person’s rules.

Why should we start holding back our darker experiences just to satisfy some agenda. That is what I would call stigma…someone telling another person with the same diagnosis not to reveal the darker sides of it.

We get enough of having to hide things and faking it when we are in our day to day lives. What business is it of some bloggers to direct another blogger about how they want them to portray any particular mental illness. If they are writing about their experiences then those are their experiences.

It is almost like high school when people tell someone to dress a certain way if they want to be one of the cool kids.

I said it once and I will say it again….If someone’s blog about their mental illness is too dark for some people then those people should go read a different blog.

They should not try to dictate to someone what to write about or how to write it.

Blessings for peace of mind,

Annie<3

23 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Billy
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 10:40:51

    Amen to that x

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  2. Moongazer
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 10:51:54

    I totally 100% agree with you!

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    • gentlekindness
      Jul 28, 2015 @ 14:02:34

      Thank you my dear. 🙂
      I hate seeing people targeted. Even more so, I hate to see someone feel driven to consider quitting blogging by manipulative people. It seems to be an important support system for the blogger I mentioned.

      Who knows what the result could be from one’s own blogging community alienating them in the midst of severe personal suffering…

      People do not think about the possible consequences of their actions sometimes….
      Annie

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      • Moongazer
        Jul 28, 2015 @ 14:13:19

        I read the post too and was astonished that people could be so……..hurtful with what they said to her. It takes courage to write about your demons like that and they have no right to make her feel so bad. I hope she finds the support she had from the comments I saw, to be enough. Blogging is a form of therapy for us that need an outlet.

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  3. deepbluesandseafoamgreens
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 11:15:10

    Blessings for peace of mind to you too – this post was spot on. Totally. I hope many see this.

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  4. Michael33
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 11:18:56

    And this post, dear Annie… is exactly why I read it all the time. The realities of life with or without mental illness come in every color and every hue of every shade… there is no one ‘should be’ for any of us. Everyone’s perception of every aspect of life is and ‘should be’ unique to that individual. That’s what makes you special. Uniqueness… that’s why we love your writing…
    Hope your Tuesday is most beautiful…
    Michael

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    • gentlekindness
      Jul 28, 2015 @ 13:58:24

      Thank you Michael. As much as there are people who want to be associated with a social group that mandates rules to them, there are still some individuals like us who prefer to think for ourselves. Thank God.

      I love this Ajahn Brahm quote “When everyone follows somebody else nobody thinks at all”

      The worst thing about the particular incident which inspired this post is that they seemed to be ganging up on her and saying that her blog did not “fit in” with their message.

      If people have a message that is what their own blog is for. It really disturbs me to see people trying to manipulate others into accepting and then selling their message.

      It is the beginning of bad things to come when we allow people to tell us what to think or worse what we are not allowed to speak of.

      There are other countries where people are told what they are allowed and what they are not allowed to write about in public presses. America is supposed to have freedom of speech.

      A personal blog that talk about personal experiences is no one’s business to attempt to control. Now this poor girl is not sure if she wants to continue blogging and she used to love and value the support here.

      Cutting a suffering person off from their main source of support and validation is cruel. If they don’t like what she writes then leave her alone and don’t read it.

      Thank you for your thoughts Michael. I appreciate hearing from you about this issue.

      Annie<3

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  5. OLED PHAT nu glee
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 13:26:37

    I agree, blogging advice should be reserved for those who ask for blogging advice.

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    • gentlekindness
      Jul 28, 2015 @ 13:45:25

      Thank you for your thoughts. Yes I agree.
      In the case of this particular blogger, in my opinion they were really crossing a boundary because they were accusing her of not representing the bipolar community properly.

      It was like they wanted the darker parts to be covered up as an agreement between the bipolar bloggers. They had decided about this between certain bloggers and then targeted her for negative comments on her blog.

      Some of the comments were meaner than others and it looked like they were trying to intimidate her or guilt her into ” getting with the program” or not supposedly ” representing” the disorder at all.

      It was her personal blog and she never claimed to be representing anyone. She was writing about her personal experiences.

      Thank you for taking the time to connect with me here. Always nice ti hear from you.

      Namaste,
      Annie<3

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  6. asher
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 15:49:50

    “I have recently read a post by someone who is considering quitting blogging about her mental illness because some readers told her that she does not show bipolar disorder in the way they feel it should be.”

    Thank you for mentioning this. Sometimes it blows my mind how hard we try to police one-another (though, to be fair, I suppose that when do so, we’re only doing what we have learned from the actions of those around us — too often, even clinicians and service providers are guilty of missing the real complexity and diversity of the illnesses they treat and help clients to manage).

    If anything, we need more people writing about atypical experiences of mental illness — because, as with any other human condition, it is those whose experiences are atypical who feel the most alone and find it hardest to express them, but (by the same token) when those whose experiences are atypical are able to step into the conversation, their words do worlds of good for others like themselves — others who don’t fit the usual clinical or experiential profile and who feel alone and afraid to speak.

    Thank you again.

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  7. Ms. Ethel Duck
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 16:29:14

    Thank you for writing this! I had an overwhelming feeling on Saturday and wrote, “Your Recovery is Your Recovery” and it falls inline with what you have written. It angers me to no end that others feel they have a right to tell someone else how they should feel or do something that is so personal to the individual. Bless you for sharing.

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  8. Ms. Ethel Duck
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 16:30:50

    Reblogged this on Diary of a Recovering Codependent and commented:
    Your journey is your own. Please don’t ever let someone else tell you the road you should take!

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  9. samlobos
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 17:36:22

    I agree. Someone’s blog is personal and their own space to say whatever they want or need to. It’s a violation when others try to force you to filter it for their own benefit. Its your right to write whatever you feel, good, bad, ugly. Its a personal experience. It’s one’s own process.

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  10. jasminehoneyadams
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 21:10:06

    Well said. Nobody has the same experiences. When I’m not being horrifically depressed and feeling thoroughly empty, I believe we are all put on this earth to experience everything slightly differently from our own unique perspective and somewhere, it all gets put together again so everything becomes a complete picture of the full extent of humanity. So it makes no sense for everyone’s experience of bipolar (or anything else) to be exactly the same. I’m reminded of a quote from Marilyn Monroe – if you can’t deal with me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best (possibly not verbatim but that’s the gist of it). It’s frustrating though when people think there’s the “one and only way” to be something you never chose to be in the first place.

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    • gentlekindness
      Jul 28, 2015 @ 21:47:52

      I love that quote! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings here.
      I am pleasantly surprised how many people joined this conversation.
      This has been a great topic to hear from people about.
      Annie<3

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  11. Tessa
    Jul 29, 2015 @ 04:14:27

    Reblogged this on Advocate for Invisible Illness! and commented:
    This is for Zoe!

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  12. Yoshiko
    Jul 29, 2015 @ 04:50:34

    It is imperative for others to pour out their feelings as a therapy.

    We can respond to help them to see from another perspective.

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