Pathological People and Entropy

The Law of Entropy is defined by google as follows:

lack of order or predictability; gradual decline into disorder.
“a marketplace where entropy reigns supreme”
synonyms:
deterioration, degeneration, crumbling,decline,degradation, decomposition,breaking down,collapse

The  concept of the Law of Entropy is that everything decays, deteriorates, gets weaker, or falls apart over time. 

Narcissists believe that relationships follow this Law Of Entropy. They know in their minds that every relationship is doomed to end, after a period of slow torturous crumbling.

The only question to them is who is in control of the deterioration as opposed to who is at the receiving end of it. 

Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissists are parasites.

They feed off of the energy, and the resources of other people. Most of the relationships they begin, are with the intention to drain as much from you as they can and use you up.

Pathological Narcissists choose to be  the one who ends relationships before the other person can leave first. If the other person ended the relationship this would invalidate the narcissist’s need to be all powerful, all knowing and all desirable and sought after.

If anyone is going to end a relationship, it is going to be them.

Some malignant narcissists are co-morbid with borderline personality disorder.  This adds another dimension to their pathology. The fear being abandoned, but they have no problem dumping their victims in the cruelest possible ways. 

They take this Law of Entropy a step further and twist it into something that is sadistic. As long as the relationship is doomed and the victim is going to “turn on them” eventually anyway, the narcissistic psychopath will mentally torment them.perhaps as a way to punish them ahead of time for the betrayal that the narcissist anticipates.

The devaluation phase will not only prove the Law of Entropy…it will take it to a whole new level. This is the design of the narcissist and the psychopath. 

The relationship not only decays slowly and painfully, but the victim is broken down bit by bit psychologically so that when the “Zombie Witch Doctor” leaves the victim, they are a broken shell of who they once were.

The term “Zombie Witchdoctor” was coined by Richard Grannon and you can click on the term to watch the video where he describes this in detail. This is a great video that I would recommend you watch. It is not too long and you will see a new perspective on this issue of how narcissists break the victim down psychologically, as well as emotionally.

The Law of Entropy is learned by the victim. They are broken down emotionally, psychologically, financially, cognitively, and physically.

Victims of psychopaths, and other  Cluster B disordered people,  are often left with PTSD. This can lead to a  compromised immune system, that causes the person to develop infections and  disease. 

*On a personal note… I was hospitalized for infection of internal organs three times after my relationship with a psychopathic narcissist. In addition I was in the emergency room with life threatening infections at least 6 times within a 6 month period. 

The body does not escape the abuse, even if there is no physical striking, punching, kicking or bruising that can be seen by the naked eye. Mental pain always manifests itself in a physical way.

When there are severe levels of trauma, and ongoing periods of forced fear, the body is flooded with too much cortisol and other stress hormones.

Check out this article about Cortisol and Adrenal Function. 

The victim’s cognitive function is been broken down along with their ability to work and function the way they used to be able to. 

Their Executive Function part of the brain is compromised. You can see my video about this topic HERE. 

The skills needed to get up, dust yourself off and recover from financial devastation are lacking. The narcissist will leave the victim in the worst financial state that they are able to. This adds to the suffering and the continued mental interference of the victim by the abuser. 

The Law of Entropy states that things will continue to break down over time,  until there is nothing useful left of them or they die. ‘

The psychopathic narcissist wants to leave the victim is an ongoing state of deterioration, so that they will continue to get worse after the narcissist is long gone from the scene. 

They may even check in with you just to see how you are doing, in the hopes to hear how broken you are and how much of a affect they had on you.  This makes them feel all powerful and enforces their grandiose sense of self. 

Not only does the narcissist see relationships in relation to the Law of Entropy, they also see their  pathological space this way too. The term pathological space was coined by Sam Vaknin. I recommend that you watch his video about this topic HERE.

The narcissist tends to move more frequently than other people. Over time their narcissistic environment is likely to break down because of all the wreckage in the lives of people that have interacted with the narcissist.

If you are in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad much of the time, you should save yourself and get out. 

11 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Deanne
    Feb 17, 2016 @ 22:44:02

    Interesting information… Thanks for sharing. I’ve been seeing a lot of post on narcissist lately. Is there to bigger push to get this information out there…

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    • gentlekindness
      Feb 19, 2016 @ 08:56:22

      There might be a bigger push now. I think that people were isolated before and did not know what had happened to them. Until you read and hear other stories that resemble your own experiences, you are not sure of your reality is right. The narcissist makes you feel like you are crazy and they convince other people that they are the good guys and that you are the abuser.
      Once people hear the same story, from another person, in their words, then they begin to connect the dots.
      The more videos and articles that come out…the more people realize what happened…the more stories will be told….and good people want to let other victims know they are not alone.
      Much love,
      Annie ❤

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  2. ruth ann scanzillo
    Mar 08, 2016 @ 21:47:16

    Narcissists end the relationship first, so that power can be maintained…..Wow! That’s very new information, to me. Glad you shared this, Annie. The next question (in my mind, at any rate): what makes narcissists draw people like myself? Or, better, what personality type is most susceptible? (maybe it’s in the rest of the article – let me go back and look) – Thank you! R.A.

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  3. ruth ann scanzillo
    Mar 08, 2016 @ 21:49:39

    Reblogged this on littlebarefeetblog and commented:
    Annie, who goes by the blogger name GentleKindness, posted this earlier in the month. Suddenly, on this fine sunny day, its theme is quite relevant, to me. Read, and learn, dear hearts! ❤

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  4. Malctg - The Foureyed Poet.
    Mar 09, 2016 @ 19:47:04

    Hi gentlekindness. I have never had any relationship like this thank goodness. Two ex-wives that in the end were not compatible happily divorced living alone now. Thank you for liking my poems Microwave Masts! Waiting! and Crash! Peace and Best Wishes. The Foureyed Poet.

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    • gentlekindness
      Mar 10, 2016 @ 06:29:51

      You’re welcome. I do enjoy your writing. I am glad you have never been close to a psychopath. It leaves scars that never really go all the way away.
      Thank you for taking the time to say hello 🙂
      Looking forward to reading more of your blog
      Peace and kindness,
      Annie ❤

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  5. gentlekindness
    Mar 19, 2016 @ 01:53:20

    Reblogged this on Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse.

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  6. Kelly
    Mar 19, 2016 @ 20:31:37

    Reblogged this on Be a Voice, Not an Echo.

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