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1. Self care and kindness.
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2. It is okay to need things.
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3. You deserve to have things that you want, just like everyone else does.
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4. It is not selfish to prioritize your emotional and mental health, over what other people want.
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5. You are not “the only” person who can help someone, no matter what tell you. With the exception of your children under your cate, other people can and will find someone else to help them if you need to tell them NO.
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6. It is okay to tell people NO, if you do not want to do something. Notice how many times they have helped you or not helped you. Some people always take from others and never give. Save your energies for someone who will really appreciate you.
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7. You can and should be comfortable in your surroundings. Taking time to declutter your bedroom and set things up nicely is a good use of your time. If you need to give out a few NO’s to people who are sucking your time….then do so.
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8. Sleep is not wasted time. Sleep is a necessary altered state of our consciousness. Part of our life is existing on that alternate plane of reality. It integrates your conscious mind with your subconscious.
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9. Eat from all the food groups. Think ahead about planning your food for the week and include healthy snacks. Low blood sugar causes brain fog, confusion, memory problems and fatigue.
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10. You are equally worthy and valuable to anyone else on the planet. Negative “self talk” is actually bad programming and corruption of your brain software, put in like a malicious virus by emotionally abusive people.
😀 thanks for this. This is my number one flaw.
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You’re very welcome. It is easy to forget these things, or to underestimate the importance of them….actually to underestimate the importance of ourselves and our personal comfort.
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This makes me feel slightly better about spending £35 on second hand books and eating way too much chocolate😋
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Ah, I love drinking coffe in my new comfortable bed and reading a new book( not second hand) in the evenings in spite of staring at the computer and my phone. My room is so nice now, especially my new piano is like bells. AHHHHH! 😉
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Thank you for cares! I appreciate and I will try not to be so anxous …but I like to go to bed early and to wake up early .
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I think if somebody loves he does need to hear “YES”, just to come without speaking .and it will be enough..:-)
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Thank you Annie. 🌼 💛 🐻
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You are welcome. I am glad this post was helpful to you. Some things that are basic to most people, are not thought about by people who come from emotionally abusive childhoods. We just were not taught to pay any attention to our own needs
Blessings and peace,
Annie
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I’ve worked a lot on myself as it wasn’t right for me either. I cannot explain here 🙂
And I’m still having to put up with things…for now.
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Some things do not go away. Certain things that people do cause a soul injury to us. It is deeper than an emotional wound, and harder to heal,
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Yes, and it is carried for a lifetime.
I hope you had a lovely weekend.
Love + hugs 🐻 💜
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🙂
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Reblogged this on Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse.
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