Month: December 2019
Getting to know our wound and our triggers : some insights into wounding and healing
I love the ancient myth of the Centaur, Chiron. Chiron gets wounded one day by a poison arrow left lying around while visiting in the cave of Hercules which contains the blood shed by the Nine Headed Hydra in the midst of the fight to cut off his heads. From this piercing Chiron carries an unhealable wound in his achilles heel which I guess is a kind of metaphor for where we all get wounded by what Shakespeare called ‘the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.” As a result Chiron becomes well versed in the nature of wounds as well as the pain and poisons they leave inside as well as the practices needed to lovingly tend the wound. All kinds of beings come to him for advice and so he becomes known as the Wounded Healer. We all have Chiron in our astrology charts and psyche some where but…
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It’s Okay to Feel
It’s okay to experience your feelings . You are human and it is human to feel emotions, in all their complexity.
It is about balance and the ability to live your life, emotios and all. Sometimes we have to just do the next logical thing, based on what we know. We may not feel like taking any action, when we are overwhelmed by emotion, but when action needs to be taken, it needs to be taken.
It is part of the maturing process into adulthood, and into healing, to be able to keep moving forward to take care of ourselves.
There can be time to think about and process emotions. You have to assess the situation and decide when action needs to happen right now instead. Then time can be allowed for thinking about the feelings afterwards.
Don’t overthink or judge your negative feelings. They are just visitors for a time. They don’t have to stay permanently.
To judge yourself for feeling a certain way is counterproductive. Accept yourself and accept the feelings that arise.
Don’t identify with them to where you feel defined by them. They are just occuring. They are not you.
Ask different questions than the ones you are asking now. We tend to ask “why” questions, but they can be counterproductive.
Ex : “Why did they treat me that way?”
“Why didn’t I see that coming ?”
“Why do these things always happen to me ?”
“Why am I so …”
“Why did I do …”
Change the questions to generate a more resourceful state of mind.
Ex: ” What can be done next ?”
“How can I make this work?”
“What would a better plan be ?”
“How can I adjust this course of action?”
“What can I take with me from this and move on?”
Re-framing the questions you are askng yourself, will help guide your mindset back a problem solving one.
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