Yes, I said it. I want to block the manipulative, controlling people.
I want to Unfriend them… or Unfamily them … as the case may call for.
Not everyone. Just the people that are soul-sucking, self-esteem crushing, and undermining.
But there are circumstances in which this is difficult to impossible to do. Well, I won’t say impossible. It is a timing thing. You have to put up with breathing the same air as certain narcissistic, manipulative people until you can make your move to disentangle from them forever.
The case of having one of them as a family member and a landlord is one of those situations. You can run but you can’t hide.
Even if I manage to avoid him for weeks, he can still access my apartment. He can still threaten me with taking the keys to my car, and worse…getting rid of my favorite bunny rabbit.
So for the sake of my love for my bunny, I have to behave. Isn’t it amazing that some people have to in control of everything in their path so badly, that they are willing ti destroy another person’s well being over it?
So, I am sympathizing with anyone still living with a mentally abusive person or that used to live with them. I hope that once you are out of there, you will never have to live with a narcissistic person ever again. Living in fear for your mental health is a terrible thing.
If you have nothing to lose, then they have nothing. But they seem to hav way of discovering just what things you could not bear to lose (the bunny and my car) and then manipulating you with them.
He also will occasionally say horrible things to my young daughter. He once told her that if she and her cousin kept laughing too loud, he would evict all of us from the house.
And …he told her that I would blame her for it because he would tell me she was the reason we were being thrown out into the street.
She was 10 years old when this happened. It was while I was at work, trying to make money to pay his $1,000 a month rent! for 3 tiny rooms in the attic of this huge Victorian house.
The house is beautiful, except for up here, where I live with no dishwasher, no stove , no oven, no living room, no beds and the fridge is in one of the bedrooms, because there is no kitchen to put it in. The shower is broken, the bathroom sink is clogged and the paint is peeling off the walls.
Some of you are already out of your abusers clutches and I am soooo glad. I want you to never subject yourself to anyone like that again.
Those of you still living under the reign of a mental abuser…..You will get out.
You will get out and I will get out!
And when we do, we won’t even look back!