Don’t Eat the Word Salad

Humans were all made individual, with unique gifts, talents and passions. While society or your family may think they know best what path you “should” follow, the authentic path for you is only known to you.

We have been conditioned to follow the pack, and to blend in with the other worker bees.  The of the heads of the large organizations like businesses and churches, all have their own agenda.

The personal agenda of the leader of an organization may be kept hidden by the leader. If you do not know someone well personally, you have no way to know what their true purposes are.

The machinations of psychopathic and narcissistic leaders are disguised as good will to others, or good will towards the members. It is easy to fall prey to just taking things at face value.

We want to believe that other people have good intentions. Psychopaths that are in the top positions, government, churches, and the ones that control the media, have brainwashed us into believing that most leaders are basically good people.

They go out of their way to shine a light on community service projects they support, and they make sure attention is brought to the few “good deeds” they have supposedly done.

You have been systematically brainwashed into turning the other way when you see things that bother you. Regular people have been trained to assume that their gut feelings are off base, if those feelings don’t seem to match the general consensus.

We have to begin to reactivate that connection with our intuition and our gut feelings. It is part of our neurology for our own protection.

Remember the story of the Emperor’s New Clothes, if it was read to you as a child. If you are not familiar with the story, then I encourage you to get a copy of the book and read it.

We are intelligent human beings capable of assessing things that we see. Most people are moral and have empathy for others.

There are systems in place to make you doubt what you see and feel, in order that certain people can interpret the meaning for you. Remember you are an individual as well as part of a society.

Think for yourself and do not let manipulative people override your critical factors, with a bunch of jumbled word salad that makes no real sense.

Techniques of the Narcissist – Mirroring Technique Used During the Idealization Phase

If you are interested in learning about how the abuse victims are lured into a relationship with a psychopath, a narcissist or another abusive personality, then you can check out this post I put up on the Lovely Wounded Lady blog today. You can see the post HERE.

This post is about the mirroring technique used by narcissists to lure people in and make them think that they share your feelings and beliefs. This technique is used during the idealization phase.

The idealization phase is the first phase of narcissistic abuse. It is the time they lure in their target, gather personal information to use against them later and begin brainwashing and conditioning processes.

The mirroring technique is one of the main ones used during the idealization phase.

This mirroring technique comes from NLP and it is a neutral technique of creating a rapport with other people. It can be used for good purposes by good people. But like all good things, it can be used for malicious purposes by someone who has insidious intentions.

This post included a great video by an NLP practitioner.  His intention in the video is to teach teach the mirroring as something to be used by good people and there is no evil intent in his video. I am only using the video in my post because it does a good job of explaining how we psychologically respond to mirroring.

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