bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, mental health, mental illness

Depression is not Just Feeling “Depressed” when the Duncan Donuts Made you the Wrong Flavor of Coffee

Depression becomes a disorder when your life becomes disorderly because if it. You can say to someone that you have depression and they will say, “yeah, I get depressed too. I was so depressed that  did not get that promotion last week, but it passes.”

That is the problem with having depression as a disorder. It does not pass. It is not just a sadness and disappointment of something not going our way. It is an attack of our brains that can render us unable to do the daily tasks needed to survive in a normal way.

It can interfere with work or even cause us to lose our jobs. It can keep us from getting things done for our kids that are important. It can keep us from taking proper care of ourselves. We can become financially devastated from the effects of depression on our lives.

We can lose relationships because of our inability to communicate with other in an acceptable way. A person with depression can lose their self esteem and their belief that they can make things better. Once the hope is lost for things getting better, there can be a loss of interest in everything.

Living with depression can cause such a detrimental effect on the quality of someone’s life that they feel there is no real purpose for continuing to live. Life is too hard, too painful and there is no reward. People with depression can become slowly more and more isolated from family and friends.

It is also difficult to get out of bed to go to therapy or to get on the phone to call for a mental health appointment. This is one of the most dangerous and most tormenting things. Someone needs to go get help but they have no energy to take the steps needed to get help. Phone calls. dealing with secretaries, sitting in waiting rooms, anxiety over leaving the house…sometimes it can be too much to bear.

Depression is not the same as

“I am so depressed that I did not get a raise, but I shook it off, why can’t you? ” or

“We all have problems but the rest of us get up and deal with them. Just forget about feeling depressed and you will feel better later”

The speakers in these statements had disappointments and frustrations. They did not have a disorder of depression. The very fact of them “shaking it off” and “forgetting about it later, once they were out with their friends having fun”  is not depression in the sense of a mental disorder.

A disorder is a disorganization in the brain that causes us not to be able to do the things that other people can do. If you have depression, you know it is different that what the people around you are experiencing. You know it is different because they do not understand you, or your behaviors.

People with a depressive mental illness have a real physical disorder of the brain. Often is was cause by some kine of trauma or abuse. Mental abuse can cause things in the brain to disorganize in a severe way. The brain does not just put itself back together easily.

Hopefully wordpress is a place where you can find validation and healing by interacting with other people who actually do understand you. You are not stupid, lazy or uncooperative, as people often perceive you to be. You have a serious debilitating condition which has physical organic components to it, just the same as someone with a physical disability.

Blessings and I hope this helps in some way.

It helps me to write about my experience and to reach out to others.


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Very Inspiring Blogger Award


Thank you to A Sheep’s Life for nominating me for this award. Please see her blog by clicking on the link. It is one of the regular blogs that I read and enjoy.

The Rules and Courtesies of the Very Inspiring Blogger Award

1. Thank your nominator by posting a link to their blog on your Award post

2. List 7 to 10 Facts About Yourself

3. Nominate up to 15 other blogs for being inspirational

4. Post the rules so people know them

5. Notify your nominees via their About Page and send them the link to your Award Post with the rules on it

6. Post the award badge on your blog anywhere you like on your pages or posts.

Thank you to A Sheep’s Life for nominating me for this award. Please see her blog by clicking on the link. It is one of the regular blogs that I read and enjoy.

Random facts about myself that I have not posted for other award posts. This is tricky. Here goes..

1. My primary care physician suspects I have bipolar 2 and has given me a number to call to be evaluated. I do not think they will see me because I have no insurance. She says they will see me. I am afraid to call and find out I am right. So I have put it off for 2 weeks.

2, Someone closed their blog down today and I am very worried as to why, due to their recent posts. This is dominating my thoughts at the moment.

3. I think it is interesting that men write about their mental illness a bit differently than women do. They seem to have more trouble reaching out for help that is emotional. The posts can start emotional and then they turn onto analytical and problem solving and then they say something to make it sound like “it is not really that bad” This happens and then the readers really believe them that it is not that bad because they ended the post that way.

This makes it harder for them to get help from readers who are not  reading between the lines. You have to read between the lines with men.We don’t want anything bad to happen to them because we did not hear what they were really saying

4. I worry about people when they shut down I know that when I shut down from communicating it means that I am doing worse. The less I say the worse I am

5. I have been invited to be a writer for the TMU blog and I will be checking out their procedures today. I an very honored about this

6. I was happily surprised to get this award

7.  I am still in bed and it is 330 pm. The last few days were so stressful, I am worn out from anxiety

8. I have considered opening an anonymous blog that does not connect with this. Sometimes I feel like it gets to the point where you cannot say everything you are feeling because people are counting on you to be strong for them. I can open the other one and get some things out there and then I would be stronger for writing this blog. I care about everyone and want to be here for you

9. I wonder about closed blogs. How does that work and who would want to be one with me? It is just a thought in my head. I think there are a few people that would benefit from doing that kind of thing with me

10. This is 10. I wrote a lot in those. I feel like I should apologize but I don’t know why. Women are always apologizing in situations where a man would not. Men do not apologize for just being themselves or for doing what they felt like doing that does not hurt anyone. Why do we apologize in situations where we did not do anything wrong?

Here are the blogs that I am nominating. Please take some t

ime to check them out. I have chosen them carefully and all of them are very inspiring blogs ❤

Please note that I currently follow 270 blogs, I know it sounds crazy but I do read them, just not all the same day LOL. I only mention this because I love all of the blogs I follow but I had to limit my choices to less that 270. ❤

I tried to choose blogs that were newer and in some cases by younger people. I admire and want to support the teenagers and young adults that are struggling with issues and are using their blog to inspire other young people to reach out and to take care of themselves.

If I did not select you , it does not mean that I do not love your blog. I love all the blogs I follow

1.  City Without People

2. Depressionless

3. Dear Darling Sanity

4.   Silver Girl

5.  Living Not Just Existing

6.  Bipolar Barbie Q

7.  Love Changes People

8.  Gales Mind

9. Refractory Ramblings from the Dark Side

10.  Writer’s Dream

11.  Blahpolar Diaries

12. Ramblings of Nekaaar

13. Birth of  New Brain

14. Healing Beyond Survival

15. Kevin at the  The Mental Health Writers Guild

16. Living with Pain but Living

17. no gas light