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Encouraging Thunder Award and Blogger Recognition Award

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Blogger Recognition Award

Thank you to Mairacharmed for this award. You can check out her blog HERE.

The RULES

» Select 5 to 15 other blogs you want to give the award to. Do some digging if you must! Find those blogs.

» Write a post to show off your award!  Give a brief story of how your blog got started,  or give a piece or two of advice to new bloggers.

Thank whoever nominated you, and provide a link to their blog

HERE are my NOMINEES…

Getting Real with PTSD

Pain and Triumph

Sensual Desires

Seeds4Life

KimmyKeepReal

Whispers on the Sigh  of Dreams

That’s so Shelly

Emotional Luggage

Elder Pipe

The Self Love Challenge

Vikaschandrabalodi

Randoms by a Random

My purpose of blogging is to connect with other people in a meaningful and inspiring way.
Advice to other bloggers –  Be Yourself and write freely.  

ENCOURAGING THUNDER AWARD

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Thank you to Tessa for Nominating me for the Encouraging Thunder Award 🙂 You can see her lovely blog about mental illness awareness HERE.

My Nominees are…

Time no Matter

LittleBareFeet Blog

ThreeHands OneHeart

My Mind  My Canvas

The Sixpence at Her Feet

This Lupus Life

AbsentDiscord

HocusPocus13

No Time but the Present

Cycpyper

Some Bad Plankton

Lemony Matters

The Self Love Challenge

RULES

What you can do with   Encouraging Thunder award?

  • Post it on your blog or social media account
  • Grant others with the award

What you can’t do with Encouraging Thunder award?

  • Abuse or misuse the logo
  • Claim that it’s your own handmade logo

What you should do after receiving Encouraging Thunder award:

  • Enjoy the award
  • At least gives thanks via comments and likes and or mentioning the person who give the award.
  • Mention your purpose in blogging or joining the social media
My purpose of blogging is to connect with other people in a meaningful and inspiring way.
Advice to other bloggers –  Be Yourself and write freely.  
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Blogger Recognition Award and Brotherhood of the World Awards

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Blogger Recognition Award

Thank you to Taming of the Shrew for nominating me for the Blogger Recognition Award. 

Here are the rules 

The RULES:

» Select 15 other blogs you want to give the award to. Do some digging if you must! Find those blogs. You cannot nominate yourself or the person who has nominated you.

» Write a post to show off your award!  Give a brief story of how your blog got started, and give a piece or two of advice to new bloggers. Thank whoever nominated you, and provide a link to their blog. List who you’ve nominated in the post. Make sure to also attach the award itself! (You can do this by right-clicking, saving, and uploading the image above).

» Comment on each blog and let them know you’ve nominated them.  Provide a link to the award post you created.

» Provide a link to the original post on Edge of NightThat way, anyone can find the original guidelines and post if needed, and we can keep it from mutating and becoming confusing

My Nominees

ButchCountry67

CuriousEvelynSeeks

I  Didn’t Have my Glasses on

Sandra J. Jackson

Travelling RockHopper

Cross Over the Road

Sheri DeGrom

Meandrous Kuudere

Errinspelling

I Prefer Deep Blues and Sea Foam Greens

Healing Your Grief

Jo Robinson

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Okay here is the rest of what is asked for this award…

I started my blog before I knew anything about blogging. I had no information or predetermined view of blogging. I knew nothing about the blogging community at all.

I was reading a post by Martin Armstrong because a friend of mine used to like to read that blog to me over the phone. One day I simply followed the link at the bottom of one of his posts because I was curious about what WordPress was.

I decided to open a blog and write a few posts. It became very fun for me and I was quickly drawn into the blogging world and the blogging community.

Advice to other bloggers – be yourself. Make your blog unique and representative of you. Do not worry so much about catering to others because there will always be someone who will complain about something..no matter what you do. There will always be people who will read and enjoy your blog, if you are just being yourself.

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Brotherhood of the World Award

Thank you to Mon from the Transcend blog for nominating me for the Brotherhood of the World Award.

The rules for this award are…

  • Thank and link back to the person who nominated you for the award.
  • List the Rules and Display the Brotherhood of the world Award logo to your post and/or blog.
  • Answer the questions set to you.
  • Nominate around ten bloggers.
  •  Create your set of questions for your nominees.

Here are my nominees for this award…

Simple Pleasures

Hummingbird Redemption

Bad Cacophony

All Things Chronic

Memoir Notes

Sabistcuit’s Catalog

The Anxious Dragon

Shirley’s Haven

Nutsrok

Lorrie Bowden

Deanne’s World

Here are my questions for my nominees…

  1. Tell us about one of your favorite characters, either from a book or a  movie and what is appealing to you about them.
  2. Do you use personal experiences or beliefs in your writing? How do you incorporate those into your writing? 
  3. Do you incorporate any of your own personality into your writing? How do you do this?

Here are the answers to the Questions that were asked me by Mon.

What is your favorite book? 

I like the book called the Five Love Languages but I am not sure if I have  favorite book.

What’s one inspirational song?

I like the song called Don’t You Worry Bout  Thing by Stevie Wonder

What made you a better person?

I am  not quite sure how to answer this question. I think that every new experience and new person you meet can help you to grow and learn. I think you are always the person that you are but you can add knowledge, skills and experiences to your life and to yourself.

Your favorite quote?

“Do not alter your facts to fit your faith. Alter your faith to fit your facts.”  Ajahn Brahm

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Dragon’s Loyalty Award

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Thank you goes to Blahpolar for nominating me for this award. You can visit her in her lovely blog HERE

Am I the Only Loser Out There ? 

Crazy Life

Ben Naga

Original Dante

Living a Beautiful Life

Emmagc75’s Blog

Three Kids and I

Transcend 

Kelzbelzphotography

Teela Hart

Jenasauruswake

My Travels with Depression

Brighton Bipolar

Chaos, Cats and Chronic Pain

City Without People

 Here are the rules

  • Put the logo on your post
  • Thank the blogger who nominated you
  • Write 5 facts about yourself
  • Nominate 5-10 bloggers

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Here are my facts

1. I was born in Frankfurt Germany when my Dad was stationed there. I was brought back when I was 3 months old, so I do not remember being there. But my birth certificate seems to back up my parents story …LOL

2. My bunny sleep in a cage on the floor next to bed, to keep me from being lonely.

3. 13 people live in my house and soon it will be 14, when the new baby of the house (not mine)  comes home from the hospital  from being born

4. The new baby is my nephew…well it is the baby of my ex sister in law and brother in law.

5. All of the my nieces and nephews from my ex husband all still love me and call me Aunt Mimi

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Encouraging Thunder and the Sunshine Blogger Award

Encouraging Thunder Award.

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Thank you to Peace From Panic   for nominating me for the Encouraging Thunder Award. I appreciate that you thought of me 🙂

Here are the rules that I copy and pasted from the post that nominated me.

The Rules:

  1. Post it on your blog.
  2. Grant other bloggers the award.

What you cannot do:

  1. Abuse or misuse the logo.
  2. Claim that it is your own handmade logo.

What you should do after receiving the Encouraging Thunder Award:

  1. Enjoy the award!
  2. At least give thanks via comments, likes and/or mentioning the blog that you received the award from.
  3. Mention your purpose in blogging.

Happy Blogging!

Awakening Our Inner and Interconnection

Poems from a Fractured Mind

A Bipolars Reality

The Ninth Life

Blog of a Mad Black Woman

Mental Illness talk

Retkon Poet

Idealistic Rebel

Quantum Physics

Family Estrangement

My purpose in blogging is to find my voice. I want to be able to express my feelings and thoughts in a meaningful way to to reach out to others who are also struggling to find their voices !

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I would like to thank Mon from  Transcend Blog   for nominating me for the  Sunshine Blogger  awardThank you for thinking of me!!

My nominees are

wanderingsufidotcom

Unbolt

Where Words Daily Come Alive

The Joshua Generation Ministries

Sheri De Grom

Heavenly Berry24

Invoke Delight

Ramblings of the Claury

Mairacharmed

Yoshiko

Here are my questions for my nominees…

Check out this link

http://corevalueslist.com/

Then write down 10-15 of the most important and meaningful core values to you.  Circle your top 5.

You do not have to post this if you do not want to. But it will be helpful to you in order to keep your focus and your passion for your work and other things you do 🙂

Here are the answers to the Questions I was asked

QUESTIONS FOR NOMINEES

What are your views about my blog?

I like your blog. It is very interactive with the readers. It has a variety of different topics that are meaningful to your readers.

  1. Who do you consider your blogger twin?
  2. I have never heard this term before. I guess it would be someone who has similar values and messages to yours. I am not really sure who I would choose as a blogger twin.
  3. What is your favorite book?
  4. The Five Love Languages
  5. One inspirational song?
  6. Don’t You Worry Bout a Thing by Stevie Wonder
  7. Your favorite quote?
  8. Live Love Laugh
  9. One way we can be a kinder person?
  10. Try to suspend any preconceived ideas about someone based on their race, religion, color, clothing etc. Get to know them for the individual person that they are inside.
  11. One of the bloggers you can’t miss a post from?
  12. Blahpolar Diaries

  13. One writing trick that you use?
  14. I do not really think of writing that way. I write posts differently depending on the type of post. I guess I would say to write as if the person reading it has no idea about the topic at all. Explain things you are talking about or give links that would be helpful if they do not know the topic.

Sorry about all those numbers along the side. They followed me when I copied and pasted and I cannot get rid of them. I think they are stalking me !!!! AHhh

 

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Psychological Injury from a Relationship with a Narcissist

It is difficult to gain our self confidence back, after we have had our brains twisted around by a relationship with a narcissist. They are masters at getting what they want, by whatever means available. This means altering your perception of reality.

If you are in the right reality, then you will see that the things they are doing are wrong. You will not comply with their requests that are taking advantage of you. Little by little they will make your world revolve around them and their needs.

Their methods are very subtle and you do not even realize what is happening. They are very good at making you feel like they care about your needs, at first. One of the ways they do this is to criticize the other people that have injured you. They will tell you that other people you tell them about were abusive to you and it was not right for them to treat you that way.

They will listen to you about people that are in your life now, and talk about how the people you interact with are not treating you properly. They get angry about how other people are treating you and encourage you to stand up for yourself against those people, or remove them from your life.

There are a couple of reasons for this. When they are telling you that other people should treat you with more respect and kindness, it gives you the illusion that they are planning to treat you with respect and kindness. Why would someone talk about how people should behave, if they did not believe in behaving that way themselves? Why would they talk about how people do not appreciate you, if they did not feel that you deserved to be appreciated?

That is the deception that confuses you. You think about how they told you that other people should treat you better. If makes you feel like they have great respect for you and that you will be treated very well by them. You feel safe and protected by them.

They do not want other people taking advantage of you and using your talents. They want to use you for themselves. If other people wear you out and use you up, then the narcissist cannot get anything out of you. They want your time to revolve around them, not other people. They want you attention to revolve around them, not other people.

They will tell you to remove yourselves from toxic people, or people that they tell you are toxic to you. This is like a slight of hand by a magician. “Look at my right hand…” and the whole time they are doing something with their left hand. They focus your attention on what bad things that other people are doing, in order to lure you into their trust zone.

You will notice that a narcissist will talk about other people a lot. The last person they dated, was selfish and abusive to them. The one before that was also selfish and not kind to them. Everyone takes advantage of them and no one really values them the way they should be valued.

Everyone is out to get them and take advantage of them. This makes you feel sorry for them. They bring you onto their side by making you feel sympathy for them. You begin to feel their anger at these other people who have taken such advantage of them. You want to make up for the abuse this person has had in their past.

If you have a history of past abuse, then it is even easier for the narcissist to elicit sympathy from you about how mistreated they are. You feel their stories like they are your own. You equate these people that have taken advantage of them, with the people in your past that have injured you.

There is no reason for you think that the abuser is exaggerating the stories or even making them up. It is so sad that everyone seems to be taking advantage and being so disrespectful of this poor person. They are intelligent and seem so compassionate and fragile. You feel that this person is delicate and sensitive to people being mean to them.

This is all setting you up to obey them. You want to make up for all the terrible things that are happening to this person. You want to show them that there is still love in the world and they are worthy of love. You begin to do all you can for this person, in order to show them that they are not doomed to a life of abuse.

You think  that they will appreciate your efforts to be helpful and caring, because so many people have been unkind to them. You think they will love you because you are the one that finally showed them the love and caring that they needed. It never occurs to you that they would take advantage of you, because they clearly know how bad it feels to be taken advantage of.

They will never be abusive to you, because they know the pain of being abused and mistreated. You trust them because they have experienced such mistreatment in their lives. They now have you, in their lair.

The more you do for them, the more they want. They are needy and draining. The tell you that you are the “only one” in their life that is helpful and caring. You are the “only life that they have” that is worth anything.

This makes you want to do more and more for them. Soon your life revolves around this person completely. When you mention that you have to take care of something for yourself, they make you feel guilty. They remind you that you are the only one they can count on and they need you.

Your jobs, dreams, friends, family, hobbies, etc all fade away slowly. Until there are no things left of your life. You are no longer an individual person, with needs and feelings. You are the other part of the narcissist. You are their on-call task doer and property.

They feel entitled to you and entitled for you to do whatever they want, whenever they want you to. It does not matter if you might lose your job, your friends, your health, your sleep or your mind. You must keep doing their bidding, or they will withhold their affection and love for you. They will threaten or imply that the relationship is hanging by a thin thread. The only way yo save the relationship, is to always agree with them and always help them.

It is an insidious thing that narcissists do to their victim. It can take years for your brain to recover. You doubt yourself and your perception of reality. This level of mental abuse can take a long time to heal. The first step is to read things like this that make you see what really happened…or what is really happening.

Much love,

Annie