Focus on the person right in front of you
Pay attention to the things that they say
Discover who they are and how they feel
Decide if your time is worth spending with them
Be decisive and clear with yourself
If you decide to be with them
Then give them this moment of your time
Value the moment to the full extent that you can
Learn more about them and see what they see
Find something in common to connect on
Learn how they are similar and struggle the same
Validate them so they are not alone
Learn what is different about their life than yours
Add this learning into your scope of understanding
Every person you choose to connect with
Can open yours eyes to new ways
To view the world as they see it
Each person you spend a moment with
Can give you a great gift of a new perspective
That may enlighten your soul and invigorate your mind
It is like reading a book and seeing what the characters see
Experiencing the world from the character’s point of view
Everyone has a different story and a view that’s unique
You can add little pieces of them to yourself
The more you really listen and are open to learn…
the more you will gain for yourself
New knowledge and new ways of seeing things
Every moment has potential for new possibilities
If you hold the moments dear to your heart
When you are haunted by depression or severe anxiety, you need someone who is on your side. You need a good friend who understands and accepts you for who you really are. They are your support system for surviving the pain of mental and emotional suffering.
For people that are recovering from domestic abuse, they are also the person that reminds you that you never deserved the abuse. They are there to keep you from making the choice to go back, when you forget how bad the abuse was.
If you have any kind of mental illness or psychological injury to your brain, you need a support system. If there is a person that is always there for you when you are hurting, they are the key element to your support network. It is good to have other means for reaching out as well, but they are the one you can just be with, and you feel better.
People that really know you and care about you, know when something is wrong by the sound of your voice over the phone. They know by how you sound without you saying anything.
Those people are hard to come by. Value them and take care of them when you are able to. People that know how to listen, and care enough to notice how you are feeling are blessings to be cherished.
Most people are too busy with their own agendas to stop and pay attention to someone else. If someone pays enough attention to you in general to be able to tell when something is wrong, they are in the minority. If they then take the time to listen and to help you, then they are friends to be treasured.
I can only think of a few over the years. Sometimes there are long periods of time with no one like that in your life. There are so few people who will ever care about you so much that they will drop what they are doing to listen. When they cannot, they will create a time for you as soon as they are able to. They will let you know to hang on and they are working on making a time for you, just because they care.
Do not take these people for granite or push them away carelessly. It could be years before you find another person you can call when you need help. Picture what it would be like not to have them in your lives. Then you will see how much of a blessing they are, even if they are not perfect.
I am not talking about abusers who are nice to you in between the abuse. I am talking about that person that really cares about your feelings and your well being. That person that can tell when you are upset about something before you tell them
This is the person who boosts your self esteem when you are crushed down by others. The one who helps you to feel good about yourself..
You may not have anyone like that right now, but they will come. When they do, remember what it was like when you had no one to call.
May all of you have or find someone who knows you and cares about you like that. Forgive them for their shortcomings and value them for just being there for you when you need them.
Sometimes you meet someone
You know them somehow
It happens very rarely
Maybe once or twice
In a lifetime of stumbling
Through awkward relationships
But… there they are…
You know them…
You recognize their energy
You feel their heart
You have felt it before
They have been tucked in the back of your brain
In Your memory
You recognize the way it feels to connect with them
You recognize the way they react to you
They are a stranger…
And yet they are not
They tell you of their pain
You say “I understand”
How could you?
But you do
You know them, understand them
You smile when you first hear their voice
It is the first time you have met them
And yet, it is not…
I can’t explain why
But I know that I know him
I recognized him right away
Like from a distant dream…
My friend, my lover,
My companion, my brother,
My teacher, my student,
My relief, my excitement
My passion, my sympathy,
My connection to my heart
My connection to my compassion
My soul mate