In the ebony of the night
The clear dreams flow with aqua light
If you stay there you’ll be alright
But something’s haunting…
On the other side of sleep
The dark ones pull and grab your feet
The horror waits for you to slip
Into its side of your trip to dream states
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A great percentage of your life is spent sleeping. This feels like a waste of precious time to some people. To others it is a escape from an otherwise unbearable existence.
We try to find ways to avoid sleep, in order to get things done that we deem more important. Or we self medicate ourselves by sleeping, and think of it as an escape from being in reality. But sleep is a reality all its own, that it intertwined with our waking reality.
The sleep states are a natural part of our existence. There are different stages of sleep that each serve important functions.
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The subconscious awakens and exists in a different way during sleep, than it does when you are awake. The processes that the subconscious parts of the brain need to do, are an important part of your maintaining your emotional, mental, and spiritual balance.
Sleep deprivation will cause deterioration in your mental state, your emotional state, memory, and cognitive functions. It effects your ability to have a clear continuity from one day to the next. Over time, sleep deprivation can cause a breakdown of your mental state, resulting in mental illness.
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Sleep can be affected by various things. If you are unable to sleep straight through for 8 or 9 hours, then it is critical to your mental health that you make up the missing sleep hours at another time of the day.
This is not laziness. You are not being unproductive when you are sleeping. Lack of proper sleep will cause decreased productivity and poor efficiency. You will have memory problems, especially related to spatial and time memory.
The sleep states are a part of our reality. Your subconscious brain exists just as much as your conscious brain does.
Your core beliefs, your memories, your perceptions of reality, and your emotions are all functions of your subconscious brain.
Your conscious awake state cannot exist separately from your subconscious reality.
Sleep is critical to make sure all these realities, and the different parts of your brain are working both together…and independently… in a way that best supports you.
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Spirituality… higher consciousness …and your perceptions about the nature of your reality…are all intertwined with what happens in the brain while you sleep.
Your mental and emotional health are dependent upon your getting proper sleep. This is also true about your immune system and your physical health.
Your spiritual health has to do with believing in, and perceiving something beyond the reality of the five senses.
Spirituality gives you a greater perspective about your existence.
Being able to perceive your higher consciousness… and spiritual realities… is also intertwined with your brain being able to experience the sleep states. Your spiritual health is dependent upon letting your conscious brain rest, so the other senses can awaken.
You are not wasting time by sleeping. You are allowing an important part of your reality to exist. You are increasing your brain’s ability to function well during your waking hours.
We are more than drones or robots. We need more to our existence than just survival. …something more to living than just paying the bills.
Treat your body’s need to sleep with thoughtfulness. The sleep states are the interconnecting path between realities and levels of consciousness.
What happens when you are awake affects your dreams, and what happens in your dreams affects your consciousness. 🌷
Sleep well tonight,
I can’t count the ducks
They say to count sheep
It don’t put me to sleep
Imagery is great
But it keeps me up late
Now it’s 6:30
The dishes are dirty
I know I should wash them
But I want to squash them
If this made you smile
Then it was worthwhile
And I know that you know
And you know that I’m so
And that sounded brainless
The sheep are now nameless
My mind is so aimless
Too tired to write stanzas
About what a woman and man does
This poem gets worse
With Each Passing Verse
Or maybe it’s clever
In some profound way
It might change your life
Or just make you say…
“You should go to sleep
You’re brain is not deep
You’re just overtired
And think you’re inspired
But thank you for trying
Your poem I’ll keep”
So now it is time
To count the damn sheep
And if I am able
I’ll fall fast asleep
And while I am sleeping
I’ll dream I’m awake
And when I am waking
I’ll wish I could sleep
The whole silly thing
It just goes round and round
But now I have you
And you know what I mean
When I say…
That I paint the sheep
Red, blue and green🎨
Cause I can’t count them nightly
And sleep so politely
Depression is a serious illness that reduces the quality and length of people’s lives. If you suffer from depression you probably feel very alone because the people around you do not understand.
Having your serious mental health disorder minimized, disregarded, or disbelieved can make the feelings worse. Over time negative emotions that are repressed will manifest themselves into mental disorders and eventually physical illness.
There can be more involved at the root of depression than people realize. Most sufferers of depressive disorders, and anxiety disorders, have old emotional wounds from childhood that were ignored and not tended to. The inner child is fractured and left in an unsafe place.
Feeling unsafe in the world, is rooted in childhood neglect of emotional needs. You did not have to be physically beaten in order to sustain serious emotional wounds as a child and a teenager.
If your feelings were minimzed, especially during traumatic events like divorce, alcoholic parents, violence in the home, poverty, dislocation or other things where you felt powerless….then you were left being taught that the world is emotionally unsafe and that you had to repress your feelings about that.
It does not go away until the inner child is recognized and nurtured. The fractured parts of you are crying to be heard. Continuing to ignore, shove down and minimize the inner child will further traumatize you.
Society wants you to shove down your feelings and stop being a baby. But what if the infant was never loved properly or cared for in a way it felt safe? Time does not remove that infant part from you.
You are not separated from your younger selves. They are a part of your entire being. It all needs to be validated, including fractured child parts that were not loved in the way they needed to be.
It is no wonder that after years of being told to move on, “leave the past behind you” that you now have serious depression illness. It is the same as a Soul Sickness.
We are made of different perceptions and realities. Our emotional and spiritual realities are very important. Putting on a mask every day, and ignoring those parts of you will lead to severe depression and anxiety disorders.
Any pain in the body, or the mind is always telling you that something has been neglected. There are no amount of pills that will fix the Soul Sickness.
Your brain looks for ways to replay out scenarios from your childhood that were neverresolved. You will continue to find yourself in circumstances, and with people that bring up the old emotional wounds.
You have to find ways to connect with, communicate with and comfort the inner child , so that they feel heard and safe.
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Good night to all. It is time for all good little insomniacs to go to sleep and this means me.
Life needs balance. Our bodies are systems of balance. We need a balanced diet or we become sick.
We need balance between work and play, rest and activity, and focus vs. relaxaxing the mind.
We need balance between socializing and time to ourselves. Too much of any one thing throws off something else that is equally important.
Our physical and mental health are dependent upon this critical balance.
We should not negect nature for technology. Nor should we forget about our family and friends because we become too focused on work.
The reverse of any of these statements is also true. We should not neglect our work, our dreams and our vision for our family.
It is a constant struggle to keep things in balance. Every physical problem has to do with something being neglected for the sake of something else.
On-going, extreme imbalance will cause disease, illness, fatigue, and a lack of wellness.
Ancient Chinese medicine was based on the idea of sickness and disease being the result of imbalance. This was an entire system of trying to connect certain health problems with particular imbalances.
The ancient Chinese medicine developers believed that by identifying imbalances early, you can prevent serious illness and diseases.
There are entire health arts related to identifying imbalances, and restoring imbalance in the body. Acupressure, acupuncture, yoga are all about restoring and maintaining the fine balamces within the body.
These arts also restore balance between the mind and the body. It is clear that physical health is intimately intertwined with mental and emotional health.
At any given time, something is bound to be in an imbalance. Our goal should be to look at imbalances if we feel like something is wrong.
Moderate to severe mental health problems can be your body’s way of communicating to you that it needs something. It could be that something is in starvation.
We can become emotionally starved for love and compassion. We can become starved for physical touch.
Emotional starvation can cause every system in the body to suffer. The mind will suffer as well and cognitive processes will slow down.
We were also made to be able to think and create. Being stuck in a routine job and living on autopilot can cause imbalance in your life.
We were made to have a balance, which includes variety and change, as well as the comfort of some predictability.
Remembering the importance of balance will help you to be able to identify and restore balamce to yourself. It is also something useful to pass down to your children or teach others.
Whenever you feel like you are having trouble keeping up with something in your life, or that something is being neglected, see what might be drinking too much energy and time from you.
If something is being neglected, it is due to something else taking too much of your time and energy. We do not always want to admit what that something is.
Even if you are not ready to make a dramatic change, yoi may be able to make smaller ones. Without change we cannot move forward.
Staying stuck in the same unhealthy routine will slowly starve your body and your mind.
Accept your tre self and nurture yourself without judgement. Restoring balance is not about self judgement. It is about self love.
Time for all good little insomniacs to go to sleep… It is 4:40 am.
Thank you to all of you for keeping me company today. My life would be lonelier without you.
Bless you all and see you tomorrow.
Much love, Annie🐇🐇🐇💕❤🐇🐇🐇💕❤🐇🐇🐇💕❤🐇🐇🐇💕❤🐇🐇🐇💕❤
Emotions should be treated with kindness and a gentle spirit. When an emotions feels like it is too overwhelming you can console that feeling and care for it.
Think of your emotions and feelings as children who need to be taken care of and nurtured. If you abandon your feelings they will only grow more. You have to walk with them and hold their hand.
When you feel sadness, grief or anger there is always a reason for it. Sometimes the reason is obvious and other times the emotion is coming from an old emotional wound.
Emotions are always trying to tell you something. They are trying to protect you from something.
It can feel like we cannot handle feeling the emotions and so we try to bury and repress them. But this is a way of abandoning ourselves.
You have already been abandoned by other people in your life. You have been rejected by people and hurt by people. Your emotions are telling you that you need to be cared for.
Self love is a powerful thing. It is not selfish , even though you may have been taught that way. Often the people that discourage us from caring about our own feelings, do so for their own agenda.
In another words, they try to get you to forget about your needs and feelings, because they are protecting their own needs and feelings. This is kind of hypocritical …isn’t it?
Refusal to listen to your emotions will cause you to break down and become fractured. Emotional wounds are often fractures parts of you that were hurt and abandoned at an early age.
These fractured child parts are trying to get your attention. They want to know that you have not abandoned them. Your inner child needs to know that it has not been abandoned by you too.
Nurture your pain.
When emotional pain comes up please nurture it as you would a sick child. Care for your feelings and console those wounded parts of yourself. Ask them what they need and have not been getting.
You can find ways to heal the emotions if you listen to them first. It is not selfish to care about your own feelings and the needs of your emotional body. Your emotional health is connected to all of you.
Separation from the emotional body
In order to give of yourself, you have to have something left to give. When we neglect emotional wounds, part of ourselves becomes separated from the whole.
You need to be whole and your emotions need to be integrated with all of you. Your spiritual health and emotional health are connected. Your physical health is also connected to your emotions.
Listen to your inner child and all of your emotions and feelings. Nothing comes up for no reason. There is always a reason if you are feeling something.
You have much to offer the world. You are a unique person with very special gifts to offer and to explore.
Acceptance of self
Everything about you will flow better when you nurture your feelings. Do not abandon yourselves by stuffing down your emotions. Allow your feelings to be accepted without judgement.
You can survive the feelings as you experience them as a caretaker. You may fear that you will be overwhelmed by your emotions but you cannot push them away from you.
Old emotional wounds
When you nurture and care for your feelings, the pain will release from you. You may find that the root causes are from long ago and the wounds have been re-opened by some person or situation.
If this happens then the old emotional wounds were never healed from the past. They are coming up in order to ask you to care for them.
Touch is a fundamental communication between people. It allows us to communicate compassion better that words or facial expression.
Touch is the most important element of bonding and compassion between humans.
There are neurochemical effects of skin to skin touch. Compassionate touch is critical for the brain and the body to be healthy. We need human touch to be well.
We need human touch in order to have good mental health. People who are touch deprived can develop mental illness.
People with mental illness can become worse from a lack of pleasant physical touch.
Compassionate touch reduces stress hormones, including cortisol. When someone touches your skin in a pleasant way, it makes you feel calmer and safer. Anxious feelings can be reduced and your nervous system can be calmed.
People deprived of pleasant physical touch can develop high levels of stress hormones.
High levels of stress hormones on a regular basis will cause a condition of severe anxiety disorder. Depression is often a condition that goes hand in hand with anxiety disorders.
“When a person receives a pleasing touch, the hormone oxytocin is released in the brain. Oxytocin is linked with human bonding, socializing and maternal instincts. It helps alleviate anxiety and fear and is critical in trust-building. There is even a specialized part of the nervous system in our skin, known as tactile C fibers, that is specialized to pick up compassionate touch.” Pracha Touch
Physical touch can promote healing in the body and reduce the likelihood for disease and illnesses.
This includes both physical and mental illnesses. Insomnia can be relieved by the hormone balancing effect of skin to skin touch that is pleasant.
Some people with mental illness may have been touch deprived as infants and as children.
There is research about the necessity of touch for proper development and growth.
There was research by John Bowlby and Renee Spitz, during WW II, about the effect of touch on infants. Infants that were orphans, living in institutional settings were not held by the caregivers.
The lack of compassionate touch caused a 75% mortality rate. Also, the infants had a lower weight and length than infants of the same age. They did not develop properly due to the lack of being comforted. The compassionate touch of the mother is comforting to an infant and reduces fear and anxiety of the baby.
Babies need to have their nervous systems regulated by the mother. Infants do not have the capacity to regulate their own nervous systems. Infants even regulate their breathing with their mother’s breathing. Babies that sleep with their mother have a dramatically lower incidence of infant death syndrome.
If the baby forgets to take a breath, the mothers breath on the baby’s face will cause the baby to draw in a breath. The baby will be calmed by the sound of its mother’s heartbeat.
“In some of the most dramatic new findings, premature infants who were massaged for 15 minutes three times a day gained weight 47 percent faster than others who were left alone in their incubators – the usual practice in the past. The massaged infants also showed signs that the nervous system was maturing more rapidly: they became more active than the other babies and more responsive to such things as a face or a rattle.” Daniel Goleman New York Times
The United States is one of the most touch deprived countries in the world. In studies, we come up second to England
In the 1960s, psychologist Sidney Jourard, studied the conversations of friends in different parts of the world. He observed friends as they spent time together in a café.
In England, the two friends touched each other zero times. In the United States, there was an average of 2 touches during the conversation. But in France, the frequency of touch was 110 times per hour. And in Puerto Rico, the friends touched each other an average of 180 times!
It is possible that the mental health crisis in the US has something to do with the fact that we are a “No-touch” culture.