When my kids were little they used to worry if they spilled something. So, I used to “accidentally” spill something on myself, in front of them, and say “Look Mama is a mess!”
“But Mama is a happy mess because I am happy to have you!”
This was my way of seperating their idea of happiness from making a mistake. I wanted them to know that they could be happy in general, even if things went wrong in the moment.
They thought this was very funny. Anytime I spilled something, either by accident or on purpose, they would laugh happily and say, “Look! Mama is a happy mess! She is happy because she has me!”
I remember once being at the grocery store, in the check out aisle, and I dropped something.
My daughter quickly looked up at the cashier and said, ” That’s my Mama! She is a Happy Mess!”
The cashier looked a bit puzzled and my daughter was smiling.
Then my daughter said to the cashier, “I drop and spill things too. And then I am a Happy Mess, just like Mama.”