Depression can make you feel like staying in bed and not interacting with other people. You know that if you go out of the house, you will feel different and out of place.
Other people will not understand your inner world. You feel like you will be forced to put on a mask to fit in. It is difficult to function.
You get more and more internalized. So you self isolate, and limit your social interactions. This is understandable because certain kinds of interactions can be emotionally traumatizing.
You feel like the one person that is out of place in the world. You sit alone and hear the thoughts that come up from your subconscious. Thoughts that there is something wrong with you.
Some of the feelings you get are from emotional flashbacks. There are things that happened and ways you were rejected during childhood that cause your subconscious to store these kinds of feelings.
If you can identify the false beliefs behind your thoughts, then the feelings can be sat with and calmed. You were not born feeling like you did not belong in the world. These thoughts were taught to you….even brainwashed into you.
When you have a feeling that is painful, like hopelessness…try to discover what core belief that thought is driven by. The belief might be that you are not as good as other people. .. Or that the world is unsafe.
If you are carrying the core belief that you are less adequate than other people…that is a bad programming. These things are programmed into children who do not have emotionally supportive childhoods.
Think back to your childhood and if you were made to feel insignificant, unworthy, unneccesary, or anything else negative. If your thoughts and feelings were dismissed, criticized, or made fun of then you are probably carrying CPTSD…complex post traumatic stress disorder.
People with C-PTSD often get depressed or feel extreme anxiety. You may have trouble keeping up with other people or feeling normal.
Those false core beliefs that were fed to you can be re-programmed. You need to question each one of those negative beliefs about yourself. Be like a scientist attempting to disprove a theory.
If you feel that something is wrong with you compared to other people, then ask what things are Right about you. Write them down. Engage in activities that prove you are as good or better at those activities, than other people are.
Look at the qualities of your parents and whomever fed those negative, false beliefs to you, about yourself. What kind of people are they?
Would you consider those people reliable critics? Did tbey have any agenda in which lowering your power would have helped them?
If those people told you something bad about the character of a person you love right now….would you believe their opinion without question? Or is their opinion not reliable?
You can begin to go out and interact with people in small increments. Go over your present state of mind, before you go out…and before you leave your car. You can just sit in your car for a few minutes and listen to music that calms or peps up your nervous system.
How you feel when you interact with others is based on the current state of your nervous system, how much sleep you have had, your mental state, and your blood sugar.
You can think of those categories and assess each of them, before you go into a store or any other place. Then you will feel more in touch with yourself and have some ways to help yourself.
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You are special. Your gifts and personality are an important part of the puzzle of humanity. You are connected with all living things in an important way.
You matter. You have a unique voice that other people need to hear. You have special characteristics that someone really needs right now.
You have innate value.
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