I can hear the rain beginning to pour onto the roof of the house. I am thinking about whether or not the car windows are up, or if I left them open. I am thinking about where the flashlights are just in case the power goes out.
These are practical things but they are also emotional things. The flashlight is practical but the fear of being in the dark house, is being mentally triggered by the sound of the rain.
The doubt in myself about the windows in the car, is a self doubt and fear, based on not feeling like I have been prepared in the past, for the events that occurred.
We can spend a lot of time worrying and trying to prepare for every possible scenario in life, but we will always miss one. It is not even that we miss it…but we just had no idea it was coming.
Life is full of unexpected things. Some things can be anticipated and other things cannot. There is no way to prepare ourselves for everything. Sooner or later we will be in a situation that we had no possible way to prepare for.
The better thing to do….rather than try to mentally prepare for each possible scenario…is to prepare for the unexpected scenario. Our brains need to be in a state that can withstand the unexpected.
The more we try to worry, predict, and play out future scenarios in our minds, the less prepared we will be when the unexpected occurs. No one will avoid the unexpected, no matter what you do.
The difference between the resilience of people is in their capacity to deal with a completely surprising unknown. Our brains have great capacity to think and deal with circumstances.
We can think on our feet and adapt. We can draw on skills and information in our brains, in order to deal with a new and unexpected situation.
When we know that the unexpected will happen, then we will understand that we have to proceed through life with this knowledge and acceptance. We found our way through a lot of unexpected situations already. Not all of them were bad. Many of them were good.
Predictability does not always apply to things. We can only prepare for a portion of the things that could happen during the course of our days. Better to prepare the mind to be resilient in any circumstance. To accept the unknown as part of living this life.
If we accept the unknown as part of the adventure of life, then we will learn on our feet when we need to. We will find out what things we need to know, just when we need to know them. Our brains have a great capacity to take in new information and also to adapt known information for new situations.
Know that your brain is adaptable and intelligent. You can be creative and inventive when you need to be. The brain can actually connect, reconnect and disconnect neurons , in a real organic way, in order to adapt to different situations and different behavioral patterns that are needed.
The brain is an amazing, adaptive organ and it can serve us when we need to be protected, or healed. The brain can problem solve, learn new information, adapt to new environments and accept new relationships. It can even accept and adapt to new realizations about reality itself.
Reality is made up of our experiences and the way we perceive those experiences. We can decide to interpret information into our reality, in a way that is helpful to us. We need our environment to support us. We need our perceptions about our experiences to support our mental health.
Looking at the unexpected as new experiences, can allow us to reduce our anxiety about not being prepared for everything. We prepare as we go along. We are not just stuck with what we have.
If our brains are malleable then we can create new ways to perceive things. We do not have to be stuck with the same way we have always perceived things. Our brains can change and learn to have a different perspective about the past, which can change the way we see ourselves in the present.
If we see ourselves in the present in a way that supports us better, then we can be less afraid of the unknowns in our future. If our current thinking does not support our mental health, then we can begin to allow our brains to take in new information that has the capacity to change our perspective about the reality we personally exist in.