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If you are getting criticism about who you are, from the people you surround yourself with, it does not mean that you should change who you are….just the people you surround yourself with.
If complying with the people you know is the only way to get them to stop demeaning you and shaming you, then find people that do not demand compliance with their ways just so they will be nice to you.
People who insist that you change for them do not really like you, and changing for them will not make them like you either. Those kinds of people have an agenda, and your only value to them has to do with this agenda.
There are people in the world that will value you for who you are. You should be surrounded with people who support you and realize the value to being authentic. When everyone follows someone else, the whole world becomes fake.
It is better to be alone for a while to gather strength. You are never completely alone. You can find people to talk to in the blogging world and other places online.
If you cannot physically separate from people who are bringing you down, the you can emotionally detach from them. Do not gratify them with the emotional responses they are trying to elicit from you.
You cannot gather strength from being around people who do not like you for who you are. There is always support from people online. There are others who believe in being authentic.
Once you are able to breath and find yourself amidst all the programming that others tried to brainwash you with, then you can raise your consciousness level.
You will then attract people who are at a similar vibrational frequency, rather than people who were attracted to you because they are predators.
If you feel confused or uneasy after interacting with people every time you are with them, this should be telling you something. They are only a match to your frequency because your self esteem is low, from being bullied and carrying toxic shame.
People who support you will not leave you with that uneasy feeling. Your intuition is your first line of defense against people who are not what they say they are. Just because someone says they want to help you, and that they are “doing it for your own good,” does not make it true.