anxiety, depression, mental illness, narcissistic victim syndrome, Narcissists, teen mental health, teen mental illness

Being Authentic Means Listening to Your Feelings

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If you are getting criticism about who you are, from the people you surround yourself with, it does not mean that you should change who you are….just the people you surround yourself with. 

If complying with the people you know is the only way to get them to stop demeaning you and shaming you, then find people that do not demand compliance with their ways just so they will be nice to you. 

People who insist that you change for them do not really like you, and changing for them will not make them like you either. Those kinds of people have an agenda, and your only value to them has to do with this agenda. 

There are people in the world that will value you for who you are. You should be surrounded with people who support you and realize the value to being authentic. When everyone follows someone else, the whole world becomes fake. 

It is better to be alone for a while to gather strength. You are never completely alone. You can find people to talk to in the blogging world and other places online.

If you cannot physically separate from people who are bringing you down, the  you can emotionally detach from them. Do not gratify them with the emotional responses they are trying to elicit from you.

You cannot gather strength from being around people who do not like you for who you are. There is always support from people online. There are others who believe in being authentic.

Once you are able to breath and find yourself amidst all the programming that others tried to brainwash you with, then you can raise your consciousness level.

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You will then attract people who are at a similar vibrational frequency, rather than people who were attracted to you because they are predators. 

If you feel confused or uneasy after interacting with people every time you  are with them, this should be telling you something. They are only a match to your frequency because your self esteem is low, from being bullied and carrying toxic shame.

People who support you will not leave you with that uneasy feeling. Your intuition is your first line of defense against people who are not what they say they are. Just because someone says they want to help you, and that they are “doing it for your own good,” does not make it true. 

life, poetry, teen anxiety, teen derpession, teen girls social anxiety, teen social anxiety, teenagers

Poem for Your Teen and Preteen Daughters

Who are we trying to impress
with our compliance to
their ever changing rules?
Who will have our backs
when the crowd turns against us?
The more we try to fit in
by following the crowd,
the more we become dependent
upon the crowd
for our existence
With all of our eggs in one
fickle basket
I dare say we are
destined for destruction
Be yourself
Be unique
No one can take that from you

mental health, mental illness, suicude

Students Against Depression

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This is a link to the students against depression web site. I looked over the site and it seems like a good resource for  teens and young adults  with depression and / or suicidal thoughts.

The materials and resources are written by mental health care professionals. The site was intended for college students but I think there might be material that would be helpful for all ages.

Some of the pages of the website are:

There is a workbook that is both viewable online or printable. The modules are entitles as follows.
1. Make a Safety Plan
2. Build Your Support Network
3. Self Help First Steps
4. Healthier Daily Routines
5. Understanding Your Depression
6. Skills for Living Well
7. See Depression Differently
8. Make a Difference
9. Write your “Overcome Depression” Story
The site is well done and it is just another resource to be aware of, especially if you have a loved one who is between the ages of 15 and 25 experiencing depression.