Toxic People in the Workplace

You have the right to be happy. People that want to make you miserable are not worth your energy. Some people that make you miserable are trying to and some are not. Sometimes we do not realize that someone is intentionally making us miserable.

We do not want to think that there are people that enjoy the power of making other people’s lives miserable, but there are people like that.

If they are not listening to you about your feelings, then they do not really care how you feel. They are more interested in their own agenda.

Sometimes we have to deal with people that make us miserable on a daily basis. like at work. Unfortunately, there are toxic people in the workplace and in management positions.

This is a difficult situation to be in. I want to work for myself, because I am tired of dealing with disrespectful people that are over me at work. They undermine you and take advantage of you.

If you have to deal with them, then try not to take things personally, even when they want you to. These are not people that you have any emotional attachment to, so what right do they have to try to  make you feel bad? The only thing you owe them is to do your job and to be polite to them.

Sometimes it helps to document interactions and confrontations with bosses that are abusive. Keep track of times, dates and things that were said. It might help, if things come to a head and you can talk to someone who is over them.

Without documentation, and a play by play of what was said, and what occurred, the toxic personality will defeat you in a verbal battle. They will dominate over you, if you end up with them and a higher up.

At some point things can be considered a “hostile work environment.”  If you end up having to go to human resources, then the more documentation you have the better.

Do not count on coworkers to stick up for you, even if they say they will. If you are afraid of the boss, they might be too. Talk is easy, when the boss is not around.

If coworkers were present during any incidents, then document what they saw, said and  heard. Date everything.

If you send emails to yourself, then you have proof of the dates that you wrote the documents.

If the toxic person, is a coworker, then follow the same method of documenting everything for your records. You never know when they might be needed. The more history you can provide,  the better.

Of course it is best to change jobs if things are really bad. Hopefully another place will be better, but there is no guarantee.

Letter From Annie

It is easy to use wordpress and being caught up in social media for an excuse not to move. Avoidant Personality Disorder is taking a strong hold on me lately. The last few incidents that occurred at work did me in.

I was doing really well when I started that job because I thought they saw me as an asset to the company. They seemed to value my unique creative and compassionate skills.

But then things happened. I was scolded by the supervisors for things that  were made up and some of the things were greatly exaggerated and twisted by the grapevine. The female grapevine is a bitch and some women will crush other women down just to get ahead themselves.

They think is makes them look good or something to point out things about other women. I wish they would mind their own business and leave me alone.

I am very good at my job. I love my patients. I am different than other people because I do things outside the box. I like to think for myself and try new ideas. I tend to do extra things because it is fun for me to try ideas and see them work.

I do come up with good ideas that work. Most everyone liked the way I was doing my creative activity program. But some stupid women had to nit pick and complain.

I am afraid to do anything now and I just do the regular work and sit there most of the time. When I feel bored and uncreative then I get depressed.

I have to find a way to make my own business and work for myself. That is the only thing that will pull my out of this funky dark place. Yuck

I want to be free and happy.

Love

Annie